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unSEXpected: Fear of falling

In my head, I am writing about this moment, as it happens. I know we will both love again. Love, in all of its forms, is inevitable. But in this moment, on this bridge, its vulnerability is inconceivable to us.

Konstanz Muller Hering
May 9, 2024

Gender & Sexuality Memoirs unSEXpected

unSEXpected: Shooting your shot

Whether you’re nervous about batting your eyes at the cutie in your 9am tutorial, or frantically using ChatGPT to write a good response to a Hinge prompt, putting yourself out there can be really hard.

Konstanz Muller Hering
April 3, 2024

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UnSEXpected: Fabricating closure

Closure is not an act I’ve ever managed to control. For as long as I’ve loved, it’s always been out of reach. I’ve had so many conversations, read so many books, and watched so many movies where the main characters talk about catching up with an ex-something to reach closure.

Konstanz Muller Hering
September 30, 2023

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unSEXpected: Managing Delusions & Delusionships

You have to reject rationality, develop a parasocial relationship with a TikTok tarot reader who encourages your pursuits, choose to hope despite having little to nothing to go off of, and then you’ve pretty much got it!

Konstanz Muller Hering
August 31, 2023

Articles Gender & Sexuality unSEXpected

A black and white image of a woman standing in front of a large, white light. She is posing seductively, with one arm resting on her head and the other hand on her lower back.

unSEXpected: Talking about Porn

Pornography is content that has been created with the intent to turn you on. And the internet is full of it.

Konstanz Muller Hering
July 18, 2023

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unSEXpected: Drawing the Line Between Compromise and Settling

The realisation that you could, and maybe should, be getting more out of your relationship is bittersweet. On one hand, it’s comforting to know the kind of love you crave isn’t unreasonable, that it exists somewhere and could very well be yours in future.